On a positive note...

Sometimes it's hard to see the positive aspects of life, but I'm trying.

Thursday, July 27, 2006

Good can come from bad.

Sometimes you just have to have faith that things will get better and life will be good once more. My son has been struggling with health issues that have been effecting him emotionally in a very negative manner for about the last 5-6 months. We finally found a doctor who knew what the heck she was doing and knew exactly the treatment he needed to get his life back on track. Ofcourse this doctor isn't in network on our insurance so we have to pay completely out of pocket for her help but the old adage of, "You get what you pay for", certainly applies here. Right now I'm feeling very greatful and blessed that my DH and I have been able to help our son out at this time.

The changes in my sons attitude and thinking have been dramatic over the last two weeks. Instead of feeling depressed and hopeless he now feels that he has a future and a bright and great one at that. He has a postive energy about him that I haven't seen in a very long while.

Wonderful, little positive, fun, and happy things have been happening to him just to prove he's heading in the right direction. Yesterday, for example, we went into town to see his doctor. Near her office is a Jay and Silent Bob Secret Stash store. My son dearly loves Kevin Smith's films and thinks these characters rock. As we walk into the store after his doctors appointment, the clerk at the desk notices David is wearing a Mooby's shirt and tells him, "Hey, Mooby's kid go to the back of the store."

I look around the left side of the shelf unit as David walks down the right side and see Kevin Smith, AKA Silent Bob, sitting at a table signing one Clerk's II poster after another. I knew my son was going to think he died and went to heaven when he got back there. He actually handled himself very well and got to have a nice conversation with one of he film heroes. He was going to buy one of the signed posters when Kevin offered to personalize one for him to which he pinned, "David, I fucking love you so much." and signed the poster. I now have a framed poster prominently displayed in my home with the word fucking on it. I guess my home is no longer G or even PG rated. He also signed David's copy of Chasing Amy that David had gone in the store to buy in the first place with a little arrow pointing to the actress' picture on the DVD saying David had had her.

It was all such fun for my son. The most important part was after talking about making films and finding out that David plans on going to film school shortly, Kevin Smith got up, shook his hand, and wished him good luck. Now my son says he will absolutely succeed because one of his idols in filmmaking wished him luck. I pray he's right. Anyway it was such a wonderful thing to see the joy my son got from this chance encounter. He hasn't been that truly joyful in awhile.

Then to top off the evening David got invited to a special concert with My Chemical Romance. A friend of his had VIP passes and asked David if he wanted to come along. His friend also asked Hillary Duff and she showed up too. She remembered David from the days when we all lived at the Oakwood Apartments just before she hit it big with Lizzie Mcguire. It seems they had a little thing for one another for a few weeks and it made him feel pretty good that she even remembered him. I guess he really is a good kisser. All in all a very good day.

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

Happy Birthday America

Today is the 230th birthday of our great nation. I know there are those who would question why I say great. I say that because we, as a nation, as a people, have accomplished so much good in this world. Certainly there are things we've done that I'm not proud of but the overall good that has been done by this country far outweighs the bad. We are a good people in general. We have the ability to see our mistakes and right the wrongs. Yes, we're flawed and perhaps not the country our forefathers and mothers envisioned but we still have such great potential.

Sunday, July 02, 2006

Great food, spectacular fireworks, and awesome friends.

What more can one ask for out of life? Great day yesterday visiting with old friends, making new ones, eating good food, watching fireworks. Sigh, life is so good.

Saturday, July 01, 2006

Sometimes you have to make a choice.

We all know life is full of endless possibilities. With all the possibilities we have we sometimes have to make a choice. I'm not necessarily a person who likes to chose sides when two friends are having a fight. Most times I'll even risk the wrath of one or the other or even both to try and get them to understand the others POV and patch the friendship back together. Unfortunately that's not always possible. Especially when one of the friends feels she has the right to air what, for all intents and purposes, is dirty laundry on a public forum that mutual friends, as well as others, read.

The public just doesn't have the right to know every little, dirty detail of our lives no matter how much they encourage us. One of the things I expect of a true friend is that my personal life will be kept off of a PUBLIC forum. I've just learned that one of my friends isn't capable of doing that if she gets mad at you. She has proven to me, by her attack of another friend, that she can't be trusted should the friendship run into trouble. She has chosen to take the low road and lash out publically at the other friend in a vicious and callous manner that I find completely reprehensible. Even IF the entire story were true in ALL aspects, which it's not, the fact that she made it PUBLIC crossed the line of friendship.

Friendship is based, in part, upon trust. If I chose to have you be a part of my life as a friend I expect you to maintain my confidence even if we should part company as friends someday. I would never post every detail of our friendship, good or bad, on a PUBLIC forum. The fact that this person has done so tells me she isn't to be trusted...ever...and was never a true friend to anyone but only a friend as long as it served her purposes. For me, that's a very hurtful thing to realize.

As for me, I've made my choice and it's to remove myself from this very toxic persons life. I don't expect her to care as it's obvious to me she cares little for others and only for herself, but I hope she begins to understand someday, soon, that she will be very alone in this world should she continue down the path she has taken here. The only people she will have left in her life are the voyuers who read her blog daily, cheering her on, watching for the next train wreck to happen. It's very sad, but she is her own worst enemy. I sincerely hope this person grows up oneday.